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OK, so, short history of my short career-ish life.
3 jobs in 4 years. One in retail, one in education, and now, one in engineering.
Three different field, with three different needs and skill sets.
Chances are, you've been to so many seminars about jobs and your future career, and all that jazz. They're good to go do, and to take notes from. However, do remember that not everything they say is true, and not everything you listen to is the ideal step you should take.
Throughout three jobs, here's what I've learnt.
1. You need skills.
The papers (A-level/diploma/degree/masters/etc.) which you have is valuable, in that it gets you where you want to go. It does not mean you're well-prepared for the working world (#truestory). Sure, you're equipped with all the knowledge your papers entail. But when you get to work, or settle in a job, you'll discover that there's so much more you may not know. For example, in high school, they don't teach you how to open a bank account, how to pay taxes, how to apply for a job, how to face an interview, and how to be yourself. When you leave high school, you're expected to know how to carry yourself. After leaving university, you're expected to already know how to pay taxes, when the time comes. Basically, you're taught to be book-smart, but you have to teach yourself to be street-smart. You need skills, and various types. What you have now may not be enough, so keep learning new things.
2. People are going to expect things from you, especially when your position is a high-level type.
So you have a bachelor's degree, and you got a high-level job. Good. Your employer knows you're new, but you're young, and young people knows how to work a computer better. They're going to need things from you, even if you don't learn them in school or university. "Never do accounting? Your degree days didn't teach you that?" "No, sir, they taught me how to design a concrete block." "That's OK, you know how to work Excel, so it should be fine." or "You're going to manage the new department" "But miss, I'm unsure on how to manage a new office". "But you have a degree, so you have to be smart". People have expectations, especially when you're a university graduate. You just gotta work it.
3. Being open-minded is different from being flexible.
There's a difference. You can be open-minded, but not necessarily be flexible. Yes, you're open to all ideas, but if that idea goes against yours, are you willing to accept that it's better? That's the difference. So identify which one you are, and then it would be easier for you to understand yourself. Are you as open-minded as you seem? Are you flexible when it comes to ideas and decision? Are you super hardcore that only yours is the ultimate decision?
4. You're going to change, and that may not be a bad thing.
When people have expectations, they want to see that in you. So sometimes, you change your way of thinking to suit theirs. Sometimes it's called 'adapting'. It's not always a bad thing, though. Adapting is a way of coping with your new environment. Chances are, you won't recognise the old you after a few months in the new job, because the new you has emerged. Is it for the better, or worse? That's up to you. Unless you're feeling jaded with the job, then you're just there for the money (which, honestly, I am). Then again, I may change in terms of how I view the job, but my true personality stays the same. I've always been introverted, quiet, and open-minded. The job didn't change the way I am, but merely the way I live my life and my way of thinking, and how I conduct myself (I've gotten sassier after handling students in Curtin, but I love sassy me. I'm more fun now). My point is, don't be afraid of change, but don't let other people change who you really are. Unless you're really a horrible person, then please, change, for the sake of everyone else, and also for yourself.
Of course, after all that, not everything I say applies to everyone. Everyone work, behave, and think in different ways. Some are more motivated than others (I'm majorly unmotivated these days), and some are more hardworking. So whatever you do in life, do what you think is right for you, and put your heart into it. Even if it's not what you want to do, always keep your options open. You'll learn a thing or two to improve yourself, and be a better you.
Book rec: Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence. A great book about focus, literally. Ironically, I find myself professionally distracted and deep in thought while reading some parts of this book.
p/s sorry if this post seems scattered. the mind can be a messy labyrinth when it wants to be.